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20 things learnt in 20 years


I recently turned 20 which is actually pretty terrifying,in my head I'm still 15. This was the first birthday I actually haven't looked forward to, I always wanted to grow up and loved when I reached 18. Well its all downhill from here my friends! On the plus side it was pancake day on my birthday! I know, I'm very blessed. Today I thought I would do a post on 20 things I've learnt in 20 years so let me know if you can relate!

Decent makeup
Its taken me 20 years to buy myself a decent eye shadow palette. I'm the sort of girl who just can't bring myself to spend over £40 on makeup. I'm completely obsessed with high street makeup but now I've entered a dangerous territory. But girls, spending your money on a palette is worth it! I purchased the Violet Voss Holy Grail palette and I think its changed my life :) So treat yourself and your eyes.

You can never change someone
No one is going to be exactly like you. This used to scare me because I wanted people to have the same views as me but sadly everyone is VERY different and that's OK. This is more to do with relationships. Your partner is going to have different outlooks to you and this may anger you but its OK! Everyone is entitled to their own views. The more you want someone to change the less they will so don't be that person. I'm talking about negative stuff not the good things in life!

Not everyone will like you
I've always been the kind of person who wants to be liked by everyone and sadly not everyone will like you in life. People tend to have issues with you for no reason sometimes but you don't need to associate yourself with people like that! My NY resolution was to stop caring what people think of me and since changing my mindset I've lived a much happier life.

People will try and bring you down and criticise what you do
I know its hard but these people are not worth your time. People who comment on what you do in a negative way are more than jealous. Don't stop what you're doing because someone makes a nasty comment, they want to bring you down. RISE ABOVE.

Don't live a sheltered life
Stepping out of your comfort zone is the best thing you can ever do. Don't rely on your parents to do stuff for you all the time, like phoning the doctors. I hate ringing places its TOO ADULT FOR ME but our parents aren't here forever so learn to be independent, it will help you out so much in the future if you start as a teenager.

Its more than OK to have no idea what you want to do in life
So many people are in the same boat, you don't have to have your life mapped out. A planned life is a boring one. Just take whatever opportunities come your way and work your ass off because the harder you work, more doors will open for you.

Its OK to cry!
It is MORE than OK to have a good cry, even if this is everyday. No one has a complete happy week. Its OK to be down but please don't bottle up your emotions. I'm crap at talking about how I feel but I know if I did open up to someone it would probably help A LOT. If you're like me and don't like talking about your emotions , write them down!

You can say NO and that is OK
Growing up the most important life lesson I have learnt about is consent. I hope none of you ever find yourself in a position where you can't say no to someone. No one should ever make you feel like that and I truly hope none of you ever have to discover what its like to have someone go against your word. You can say no and if they don't respect that you report it. Don't suffer in silence. Don't think you're the problem. They are.

High school is tough but it will be over in a flash
Despite hating high school a tremendous amount, I got my grades and left and I've moved onto a lot better things and people! Try and enjoy it, make the most of the FREE education you get.

Turning 18 taught me a lot about myself
18 was my favourite age. I started to love life more, appreciate my family a hell of a lot more and it was a time where I discovered me. I have learnt to be more comfortable in my skin and push myself out my comfort zone. It took me till I was 18 to be able to walk into a room of people with my head held high and tell my anxiety to basically do one. You will reach an age where hopefully things will start to bother you less!

The importance of family!
Family are so important. Make the effort with your grandparents, your parents, your cousins you never know what can happen tomorrow.

Your not young forever!
Appreciate your teenage years cos god do I miss them already! Go out and party till early hours, be spontaneous, meet new people and have fun! Don't be one of those people who spend their teenage years in a crap relationship. Make the effort with your friends and take loads of photos!

The world is a scary place and terrible people do exist
But that doesn't mean you should live your life in fear, don't be scared of trains and airports or city centres because of the possibility of terror attacks. Living a life in fear causes too much anxiety, if bad things happen we sadly have no control over it.

People will come and go
Friendships end, relationships end but its OK, you will keep meeting new people. Don't be a doormat for shitty friends, when you reach 20 keep the friends who still make the effort.

Peer pressure
Don't give into it. Your teenage years are the hardest for learning about new things like smoking and drugs. I personally have never been interested, however I know a lot of people who do and it used to really upset me. You can't change someones mindset tho, if they want to do that, you have to let them get on with it. Even if you're just trying to be a good friend! Just don't give in to pressure yourself.

Virginity
Oh my god. The amount of stigma surrounded virginity is unreal as a teenager. It doesn't matter what age you have sex. Its about when you feel comfortable. People will make comments but so what. Whoever you lose it to, make sure you're comfortable, don't do it for the sake of it.

Don't waste your time on silly boys!
Have fun in your teenage years, don't waste them constantly crying over a boy who can't see your worth or commit to you. There are plenty of people who will do anything to be with you! Don't rush relationships, they will happen.

Appreciate this world
Go on long walks, very therapeutic, travel and take lots of photos!

Life can be pretty lonely sometimes but..
It will get better! You can feel so isolated sometimes but this won't be forever.

Don't give up on your dreams!
Go out in life and do what you want to do! Don't end up in a job you hate, keep a positive mind-set and amazing opportunities will come your way. Don't you dare give up on yourself!

Let me know if you can relate to any of these points!