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13 reasons why you should always be a good person





I've recently binge watched 13 Reasons Why on Netflix and it was hands down the most amazing, moving, depressing series I've ever watched but it carried a very VERY important message. Always treat people the way you would want to be treated, you never know what is going on inside someone's head, don't be the person/people to contribute to their unhappiness. If you haven't watched it, go and do it right now. It will change your entire perspective on how to treat people. 

I have never been the type of person to follow the crowd, the type of person to make someone feel miserable because I know exactly how that feels. I know how it feels to be targeted every single day of your high school life, to avoid certain areas in fear of bumping into that person. Imagine if it was a group of people or in Hannah's case, the majority of the school who were against her? I will never understand how people don't realise how evil they are being. 

To the bullies and bystanders:

1) Following the crowd isn't 'cool' once you leave high school that will become very clear to you. All those 'popular' friends you thought you had won't be by your side anymore. 

2) If you see someone looking miserable and being targeted DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. I know it can be highly intimidating to stand up to a bully but that person will thank you so much. If you don't have the gut to do it, then tell someone, tell a teacher you're worried about someone. Don't be that person who could have stopped them from doing something awful to themselves.

3) The joys of social media ay. Forever ruining lives at high school. I remember seeing posts on Facebook, people writing statuses where everyone could join in and comment on that one person or sharing a photo of them. What do you achieve from doing this? Don't share a post, be the person who reports it. Bullying online is now a criminal offence. Even if they are your friends don't defend people like that, I know I certainly wouldn't.

4) Even if you aren't close to someone just ask if they are ok. I've done this multiple times and still do now. If I see someone writing depressive tweets I will instantly drop them a message just to let them know I care even if they don't want to tell me about it. When someone is feeling so low having someone telling them they are there means everything even if you don't get the response you wanted or they ignore your message. It's about being a good person. 

5) Don't be a BYSTANDER, bystanders are people who sit back and do nothing or get more people to join in and target someone. You're just as bad as the bully for doing this. 

6) You might be the type of person who feels the person who is getting bullied is 'weird' and if you are seen talking to them it might effect your reputation. Thankfully I've never been this person. Even to the labelled kids at school I would make sure they were ok. Don't judge a book by its cover, just be a decent human being.

To the victims:

7) Please don't give in to them. I know how overwhelming it can be and how you feel so isolated and alone but don't let them win.

8) Don't suffer in silence, there are so many people who understand your situation and will want to help. It might feel like no one has a clue but there are plenty of good, decent people in this world who will help, believe me.

9) Talk to your parents, don't push them away. It's very easy to lock yourself away and suffer in silence but this doesn't help. Your parents are on your side!

10) Please try to understand there is nothing wrong with you, bullies target you for no reason other than jealousy, please don't change who you are.

11) Hold your head high and don't let them know they are getting to you, you will exceed in life they will be going no where.

12) High school will be over as soon as you know it, you won't ever have to deal with these people again. I know it's tough but the day will come!

13) You aren't a weak person, you're so strong and you are worth everything. Life IS worth living. Please don't give in, there is so much to look forward to.

If you are suffering from bullying right now please don't struggle alone, send me a message and I can try and help! 

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